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Is this Cheating...

Ok.. Soo, is it considered cheating if u r unofficially going out w/someone and then u mess around w/someone else?
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ok.. this is a back ground story....................
I went out w/LCM from June.3, 2002. we broke up around Jan.20,2003. We got back together (unofficially) at the begining of March, 2003. Junior prom (april 11, 2003) he went w/this hot chick, i went w/this ''hot'' dude.. by May 20th, 2003, things became official AGAIN. But then... by the end of Sept, we were officially broken up (FOREVER -in my book-) four months have past and by late Jan. we were yet AGAIN talking AGAIN.. And now, FEB.2004, we r unofficially going out again.
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My feeling: I dont' want to get hurt.. I dont want to lose someone so special to me.. but again, i'm falling for something this crap once again..
RAR.... who knew girls could be so stupid!

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i say dont bother unless u think theres somethin real there..like, if he just keeps breaking ur heart and u only want him for sex or somethin (taking that from the "just be ftf") then dont bother cuz hes gonna break ur heart again and ur feelins arent even that true, iono..i say find someone new

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do whatever you want to do..just make sure you dont regret it though

eh kinda confused now.... i say do wut u want....

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what is unofficially going out?

i say kick his ass to the curb and find someone better

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Originally posted by niggoreanboi
what is unofficially going out?

i say kick his ass to the curb and find someone better

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it's like we r going out.. but we r not obligated to tell everyone we r going out.. and we dont' have the pressures/demands that relationships ask for.. yet u r sort of required to be faithful.. so in the end, both people get screwed BUT since u were officially going out... no one looks like a dick when cheating goes on.. plus, u can never use the excuse that the other person was supposed to be there for u because he/she is ur significant other.. works out nice for some people.. o yeah, and jealousy can't occur either since.. yeah.. who the other person talks to, isn't ur business..

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Originally posted by niggoreanboi
what is unofficially going out?

i say kick his ass to the curb and find someone better

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Whatever happened to JUST being friends? Not FTF or "unofficially" dating... JUST being friends. Whatever happened to [something to the effect of] "I still have feelings for him, duh, but I don't see us being together anymore" ?

Now you [Emerald] know that I don't EXACTLY know what I'm talking about but... once serious problems are there... they never really go away. Sure you can forgive and etc... but you can't erase the memory of those problems. They're problems for a reason. They'll keep re-occuring... no matter how much you "stick it out" and let time tell. It might just end up exacerbating the existing drama. Don't tell me that everything has gotten simpler/easier/better because you two became official FTF but unofficially dating again...

I bet this quote can be twisted to be pertinent. "You can't teach an old dog new tricks." I think things might get a tiny bit better but you'll never have that puppy again... He's a good guy but what you say you have isn't even a "relationship" anymore. Basically its pointless (except for the sex I guess... but there is sooooo much emotional attachment. 1st one) unless you had ulterior motives of getting BACK together... Do you?

You were a lot happier before you and him yea: That short time [I think it was there] between Friends and FTF. I don't think one can unofficially date? Is that called casual sex/dating? Close to it?

If you guys do get back together, are you going to be happier?

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yes

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no, jk, i'd be happier dead.

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people break up for a reason

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Allright, I really have no clear reason why I signed up.
Mebbe it's the flavour of the month? I dunno.

Anyways,
Forget about LCM, and look for someone new.
You dropped him for a reason. People usually don't change their motives, personalities, and/or actions. Just because you two didn't get along, and you think you can "patch things up" doesn't mean that you really can expect this relationship thing to last. My advice would be to patch things up to be *friends* if that at all. Don't succumb to loneliness by lighting a candle with an old flame. The highway of love moves along... don't be caught against the traffic.

Ask yourself, "Will I really benefit from going out with him?" There's obviously some tension between you two if you two broke up many a time. If you can't trust him with secrets, then what's the use of being with him? I'll refrain from using cliches such as "many fish in the sea", but take heed; if your back was stabbed previously, assume that the recurring nightmare will happen if you guys become "official."

The whole "cheating" incident during prom is atrocious. It sickens me that he would do such a thing and you knowing about it, but what's worse is that you'd do the same thing since he did it. (shame)

Personally, I might think to myself, 'well, here we go again...' as I saw you two together, and knowing what went on, but I gave my two cents, plus more. (enough to feed some small child in Micronesia)

I may as well state that LCM is the catalyst to the bulk of your worries and behavior, but what good will it do to just throw ideas/personal morals and beliefs on a messageboard....
I won't think of you two differently, rather, slapping myself across the head that you'd actually go through and relive the pain.

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Originally posted by -dK-
people break up for a reason

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Originally posted by MellowYellow
"People break up for a reason"

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that's wut i told him, since u know, he dumped me! but no.. he's too much of a fucking guy to see WTF i am saying.. GDI! gues pretend that problems don't exist, so that they don't have to do w/them.... ::waving fist in air:: god i hate u ALL! (j/k)

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Originally posted by H2oBaebe
that's wut i told him, since u know, he dumped me! but no.. he's too much of a fucking guy to see WTF i am saying.. GDI! gues pretend that problems don't exist, so that they don't have to do w/them.... ::waving fist in air:: god i hate u ALL! (j/k)

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HEHE.. u know wut i mean! plus, u know i'm kidding! hey, r u saying that u've never avoided emotional expression!?

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Originally posted by niggoreanboi
?? "too much of a fucking guy to see: what do that suppose to mean? your so sexist -_-;

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Originally posted by H2oBaebe
HEHE.. u know wut i mean! plus, u know i'm kidding! hey, r u saying that u've never avoided emotional expression!?

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