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Posted by * Liah * on 01-23-2003 04:47 AM:

Unhappy Should I break up?

My boyfriend and I have like.. gone out for a long time.. we hooked up in October of 2001 and like had great relationship... but then he broke up with me in July because of some problems.. but then we got back together last Nov. But recently he barely talks to me...
He always used to start conversations and call me.. and I like really really love him and he tells me he really really loves me too..
but.. he never talks either online or phone.. and when I ask him about stuff he like.. never says a lot... like when I say.. "What did you do today?" he says... "not a lot.."or like.. "how come you never talk to me online?" he says... "I'm studying for midterms and I have a lot of homework.." and on the phone. "why don't you start a conversation?" and he's like... "I don't know what to talk about" or "I'm not much of a talker.."
Sometimes I get the feeling he cheats on me and I ask him if he wants to do something on the weekends or during holidays and he says he tries but he never does... and I can't talk about the problems of our relationship because he's really sensitive.. and gets easily pressured..
I asked him one time why he chose me over his ex-gf.. and she was like better than me.. and started screaming that I shouldn't start that kind of conversation with him.. and I heard him crying on the phone..
I love him but I can't deal with a relationship without communication.. What do I do?

Posted by iTsmeehLita on 01-23-2003 04:56 AM:

well you said that you can't have a relationship without communication ... but it seems that's what you're lacking ...

you need to be able to talk to your bf about your relationship .. despite the pressure ... or the baggage ..

dont put so much pressure for online .. my sis and her bf have had so many fights cuz one wouldnt talk alot or reply fast enough .. its seriously not worth it ...

Posted by KeN VeRsUs RyU on 01-23-2003 05:12 AM:

1 of 2 things.

1) he's wasn't honest about something and now both of you guys are paying the price of an awkward relationship.

or 2) he's just an ass.

more than likely its 1.

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Posted by merdawg on 01-23-2003 11:53 AM:

was he like this [not talking]? b4 midterms? i mean during the summer, was he like that? cuz maybe he is just really worried about the midterm. you should talk to him about it after the midterms where everything is calming down. cuz i know a lot of stress builds up during midterms. anyways, talk to him about it AFTER.

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Posted by krnxswat on 01-23-2003 02:02 PM:

Re: Should I break up?

Like merdawg said, maybe he's really nervous and concerned about the midterm, so talk to him about this after the midterm, when everything's done and seem to quiet down a little bit.
Or there's a possibility that he lost feelings for you. Because like you stated, you guys broke up with each other and when out again. I've had this experience too, but it didn't seem to work out quite well, it was different. Or, maybe he's hiding something from you, or there's something that's bothering him but he's not willing to tell anyone. So talk to him about it after the midterms. Don't get too overconcerned about it, the matters just going to get worse.
Btw, you should be concentrating on studying on your midterms too!

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Posted by AZN Pinoy BOI on 01-23-2003 06:15 PM:

i think u should break up wid him.... i don't even thing u should of got wid him again (don't think i'm crazy, lol she's my cousin so i know some ofda shit)

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Posted by merdawg on 01-23-2003 09:00 PM:

quote:
Originally posted by AZN Pinoy BOI
i think u should break up wid him.... i don't even thing u should of got wid him again (don't think i'm crazy, lol she's my cousin so i know some ofda shit)


LOL, i was about to say.

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Posted by * Liah * on 01-23-2003 09:40 PM:

quote:
Originally posted by merdawg
was he like this [not talking]? b4 midterms? i mean during the summer, was he like that? cuz maybe he is just really worried about the midterm. you should talk to him about it after the midterms where everything is calming down. cuz i know a lot of stress builds up during midterms. anyways, talk to him about it AFTER.


No he used to talk a lot... maybe they are the midterms... he also started working and such...

Posted by * Liah * on 01-23-2003 09:41 PM:

quote:
Originally posted by AZN Pinoy BOI
i think u should break up wid him.... i don't even thing u should of got wid him again (don't think i'm crazy, lol she's my cousin so i know some ofda shit)


SHUT UP TED!!! I LOVE HIM!!

Posted by * Liah * on 01-23-2003 09:42 PM:

Re: Re: Should I break up?

quote:
Originally posted by krnxswat
Btw, you should be concentrating on studying on your midterms too!



Shut up Seon Ho... hahhahaha

Posted by azngrl5387 on 01-23-2003 10:27 PM:

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ur in a really bad situation. but no relationship can survive without communication. i feel like he's just using school to avoid u. u should really sit down and have a talk w/ him about how ur feeling. hope it works out.

Posted by ajy on 01-23-2003 11:37 PM:

kill him and dump his body in a lake

Posted by AZN Pinoy BOI on 01-24-2003 12:03 AM:

quote:
Originally posted by * Liah *
SHUT UP TED!!! I LOVE HIM!!


yahahahaha

yeah i agree wid AJY 2K

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Posted by psyTeK ver. 2.0 on 01-26-2003 02:51 AM:

Re: Should I break up?

quote:
Originally posted by * Liah *
My boyfriend and I have like.. gone out for a long time.. we hooked up in October of 2001 and like had great relationship... but then he broke up with me in July because of some problems.. but then we got back together last Nov. But recently he barely talks to me...
He always used to start conversations and call me.. and I like really really love him and he tells me he really really loves me too..
but.. he never talks either online or phone.. and when I ask him about stuff he like.. never says a lot... like when I say.. "What did you do today?" he says... "not a lot.."or like.. "how come you never talk to me online?" he says... "I'm studying for midterms and I have a lot of homework.." and on the phone. "why don't you start a conversation?" and he's like... "I don't know what to talk about" or "I'm not much of a talker.."
Sometimes I get the feeling he cheats on me and I ask him if he wants to do something on the weekends or during holidays and he says he tries but he never does... and I can't talk about the problems of our relationship because he's really sensitive.. and gets easily pressured..
I asked him one time why he chose me over his ex-gf.. and she was like better than me.. and started screaming that I shouldn't start that kind of conversation with him.. and I heard him crying on the phone..
I love him but I can't deal with a relationship without communication.. What do I do?


face the facts, it seems to me like both of you are to blame for the gradual collapse of your relationship.

For you. What can the guy do if he's not much of a talker? Those reasons he gave for your questions all seem like valid answers to me, so I don't know why your trippin' so much. If you knew him well enough, you would just accept his laconic personality for what it is. And, if you loved him, you would trust him to be the kind of person who wouldn't cheat on you. What is love without trust?

As for him. I have nothing against sensitive guys, but he seems like a little pansy. If he's too sensitive for you to bring up and talk about some problems with him, then your missing the "compromise and communication" aspects of a well-rounded relationship. Being easily pressured isn't any better, since your bound to make him do or go through something he doesn't really want to. he simply needs to hurry up and grow a backbone, and not go off crying on the phone just because you brought up an awkward conversation with him.

face the facts, it's time both of you took the time to re-evaluate where you stand in your relationship with each other.

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Posted by MasWusHot on 01-26-2003 03:36 AM:

maybe not only u but he is thinking osmehtings wrong..but with u..like yea i think you should both sit down and talk about it because he could be goin through the same thing you are..u never kno~~

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Posted by twinkie on 01-26-2003 03:45 AM:

you sure its love?

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Posted by AZN Pinoy BOI on 01-26-2003 04:02 AM:

tiff seriously, i agree wid twinkz... are u sure... u know how much more stress u had when u were with him then u were with out him, people know that it comes with a relationship but look at urself... you've become depressed and shit... but then there are times ur so into him.... like ur made for each other... but i'm seriously concerned... you know how i felt when he kept calling my house on that day? i was so pissed, i was sad for u too... but now i just noticed i wasted all that? i'm serious though you might think u love him.... but i don't really know if u do

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Posted by merdawg on 01-26-2003 05:16 AM:

i think the use and meaning of "love" is being used the wrong way nowadays. anyone agree?

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Posted by MasWusHot on 01-26-2003 05:21 AM:

quote:
Originally posted by merdawg
i think the use and meaning of "love" is being used the wrong way nowadays. anyone agree?

i agree...this girl i kno said after like a week of goin out with her bf he said i love you....she didnt say nehting lol i wouldnt either..thats not love!

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Posted by noriko378 on 01-26-2003 05:32 AM:

quote:
Originally posted by merdawg
i think the use and meaning of "love" is being used the wrong way nowadays. anyone agree?


I totally agree with that sentiment..."Love' is just a word now...
it doesn't hold the same meaning as it did before..and people tend to mistake 'love' with 'like' and vice versa...

kinda sad...
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