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bah. what is waiting anyway? if i was separated from a guy that i thought was "the one," i wouldn't date someone else as long as i still believed that the first guy was still "the one." otherwise, it would be dishonest to the new guy because i would know that i couldn't give him my whole heart. even if i knew i could NEVER be with the first guy, i couldn't be with someone new as long as my heart still belonged to the first guy. so in essence, there is a possibility of waiting for a long long long time... maybe even forever.. in which case it would just be that i was destined to be with no one.
but the point is that it's not really actively waiting but rather a byproduct of being true to myself and not settling for less than what is true. in fact, during the whole time of "waiting," i would be aware of the possibility that there could be someone else. cuz honestly, as humans, we can never be sure of "the one." what fate has in store for us, we don't know. people say you have to "move on." but i think that if i was able to "move on" from someone, it would just show me that he was never the one. so if while being separated from the first guy i met someone who i completely knew i would choose over that first guy even if they were both equally available, if this new guy negated the first guy's being "the one" because this new one surely was "the one"... then the honest thing would be to be with this new guy. it would be unfair to the first guy to still be with him if i my heart belonged to this new guy. more often than not, people do move on. but yeah, i dunno about this whole just settling just to have someone thing... i don't like that idea.
from a Christian perspective... i guess what i'm saying is that i don't believe in waiting on people, but rather waiting on God's plan. for non-believers, i guess you could just see it as trusting fate? but part of trusting fate is being true to your heart. the human heart is not absolute as it is, why settle for even less? in the end, what's truly in your heart will coincide with fate. it's like that saying... it goes something like... "if you love it let it go, if it returns then it was always yours; if it doesn't, then it never was." if two people really are the ones for each other, they don't have to tell each other to wait. they will return to each other in the end... or even better, their hearts will have always belonged to each other even while being separated. otherwise, they weren't supposed to be in the first place.
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03-25-2003 02:54 AM
