Re: Love vs Infatuation
quote: Originally posted by IronPanda322
Don't know if anyone's posted this up before, but's it's a good article that i think a lot of people should read.
Love or Infatuation?
Infatuation is a fleeting desire - one set of glands calling to another. It is marked by a feeling of insecurity: You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions; little bits and pieces about the relationship that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. It is quiet and understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him." Love says, "be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you
hope it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's being unfaithful. Sometimes you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust, and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.
Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you better than you were before.
i really dislike crap like this people write on those "inspirational stories" forums and websites. face the facts, you don't need a cheesy hallmark card quote or story like this one to decide for yourself what sets infatuation and love apart. i'm glad for you if your nodding your head while reading this story because it seems "so right" and makes "so much sense", but in reality it is far from a defining definition; instead it should be viewed as nothing but an opinion by one person on what he/she thinks love/infatuation is all about. if you ask me, this person was probably an overly-sappy soul who's been watching one too many korean dramas in his/her free time.
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