What about you?

A lot of us have experienced the strict and harsh rules of Asian parents, but most of them went through the same thing. When you grow up and have your own kids, do you think you'll be harsh too?

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to an extent. But not with all the stupid pride above common sense, and never admitting your wrong, or never telling your kids that you love them.

I think asian kids turn out better than most kids imo, and that's becasue of the strict nature of their parents. I may be biased, but i think it's true. Better than being spoiled, thats for sure.

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i know ill have some sort of controll over them... i never want to shelter them like a control freak tho... i'll let them experience things for themselves... of course if they do something stupid they will get punished... ive seen people who have been sheltered for their whole teenage life... and once they hit college... lets just say it wasn't pretty

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hMm..cant really say..
still have much to learn...for one..i'm bad tempered in person..and so i dunno if i'll be patient. and yea..i agree with psycho.
i'm hoping to be a good parent..raising my kids with respect and all that other good stuff...another thing..when i think of having kids..i get worried about them not being able to speak korean. because my parents did not knoe how to speak english well..and still they havent learned..thats how i learned.. when and if i do marry a korean person..they would probably americanized..and live by the "american way," ..if that's the case, we'll probably hardly ever use korean in front of our children. so yea..i was thinking..after they're born..move to korea..then move back to america when they're a bit older..of course it'll be hard. but yea..its a dream ^^

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I can't really say either, buh I know I'll be somewhat strict on my kids... I want them to know our culture, religion, beliefs and tradition... I don't want them to forget and lose that because of living in the US... For sure I won't spank my children... But I can't really say how I'm going to be... I learn from my parents mistakes so maybe I can build off of that and be a better parent to my kids

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maybe... but probably not as much... i mean... my parents are way to overprotective. i want to allow my kids to be able to date when their at least 14... and stuff like that.

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i've often wondered bout this. mai parent's aren't like TOO, overly strict...they're ok i guess. just xpect a lot outta me. thaz ok. so i'll guess i'll be the same w mai kids. i won't be over protective, but i'll xpect them to hav a degree of reponsibility and maturity. but for sure: i will NOT spoil them too much. those kids that hav their parents do everythin for them...it's sickening i want mai kids to be independent like i am, not havin to depend on their mommy and daddy for every lil thing. and i guess the occasional spank is ok wen they're little, but certainly not wen they're older

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hard to say...but my parents use to be stricter when i was younger...not anymore (phew! ) but they still lecture me and stuff but at the end of the day, we all treat each other like adults so...i'll definitely be strict on my kids but i want them to be independant at the same time...basically what everyone said.

i think it's safe to say that we all want the best for our kids...i mean, wouldnt any parent? :P

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