How to compliment a Women
by: Rodney Battles
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As you likely know, most men like compliments that appeal to their egos. Most women, however, like compliments that appeal to their vanity. All women love to receive compliments that make them feel good about themselves. The best compliments to give just about any woman are ones that are directed at the specific things that are important to her self-esteem.
After having a bad weekend, Judy's boss greeted her one Monday morning by saying, "You look nice today!" Although she thanked him, what she really heard from her boss was, "You look nice today. Normally you look like hell!" A better compliment from her boss would have been, "You look exceptionally nice today!" With the addition of just one word, he would have implied that she looks nice every day.
A compliment given to a woman the wrong way will be taken as an insult.
When a man gives a woman a compliment, he should watch her reaction closely and pay attention to how she responds. Most women will accept a sincere compliment graciously with a simple "Thank you." Occasionally, however, a well-timed compliment might produce more favorable results.
A woman may respond to a compliment with a smile, accompanied by a visible glint in her eyes. She may even return the favor by complimenting you. If she responds with more than five words -- for example: "Thank you, you are very kind," or "Thank you, it is kind of you to notice" -- she might be interested in a little more than just the compliment you've given her! The worst criticism for most women is that aimed at things affecting their self-esteem -- things they cannot change or cannot easily change about themselves. Of course, that's true of men as well. What man wants to hear comments about his height or lack of hair on top? If you want a loving relationship, then be as courteous to women as you'd like them to be to you.
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very true^^
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