aiite, this isn't true for everyone, but this is what i think based on my experience (unfortunately).
girls don't TRY to go for jackasses. i think a girl falls into a trap when they think there's actually a really great guy hiding inside the jackass that others can't see, cuz that makes it feel special. also, the cockiness (when played in a certain way) that usually goes with being a jackass could be mistaken for confidence and initially be found attractive, despite contradicting all reason. (ew he's so cocky... ew why do i actually think thats cute?)
well, many times, these jackasses are actually putting up a front because they are actually really insecure inside and so they have to play this whole macho jerk thing. this insecurity, girls, is what had been sensed as there being "more" to him. again, this is just my interpretation based on my observations and experience. i'm not claiming it applies in all cases.
so basically, the problem here is immaturity. when a girl is immature, she is more vulnerable to falling for guys who are immature.
once people start maturing, everything falls into place. i've noticed a trend. as girls mature, they learn to judge better. so they tend to get disgusted by the immature jackasses and go for guys who are so secure, mature, and confident (not cocky) that they treat the girl with respect... aka a GOOD GUY! an immature good guy may not have been desirable, but a mature one definitely is. and jackasses can grow out of their immaturity too and go in that same direction of being a good guy... they might have a harder time though? i dunno.
but yea, some people may never really mature; some people may mature very early. *shrug* and this all depends on what u think maturing is. heh.
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